Hi, I'm Cindy, and thank you for checking out my first blog post! I will try to write as often as possible on here. Occasionally, there may be other contributors as well.
Today, I will be discussing "1...2...3... Magic", or as I like to call it, "1...2... magic". Often new parents, myself included, have been conflicted on how to properly discipline their child. After all, discipline is difficult emotionally for both the parent and child, but we also want the best for our children in the future, therefore teaching correct behavior at a young age is vital. The good news is that there are many different types of discipline, and not all will leave you and your child feeling guilty afterward!
This is where "1...2...3... Magic" helps. When I used "magic" for my child, I offered very benign, yet effective instruction. As soon as I observed a behavior that needed correction, I would say, "I am going to count to 3, 1....2....3". Often before I even reached 3, the behavior was corrected. At first, if your child does not respond, you may need to determine an appropriate punishment (loss of video games, television, or well-liked activity) and alternate these punishments. Your child will eventually respond more readily (often before you reach "3"). Since the punishment at the beginning will vary, psychologically your child will first associate "magic" with all previous punishments, rather than just one, making it much more effective than a single punishment. Soon, your child will begin associating "magic" with inappropriate behavior, which is our intention!
As I stated above, I particularly like this technique because it shapes your child's behavior with no punishment, meaning more happiness for you and your child. Counting to 3 also provides your child an opportunity to become cognizant of their behavior, realize why the behavior is wrong, and then change their behavior. Over time, this means your child will do this behavior less and less, until extinction of the behavior.
Have you tried "magic"? Did it work? Do you have any other tips? Feel free to comment on the panel to the right of this post.